Relationship Therapy for Couples
You’re not broken.
Your relationship isn’t beyond repair.
Love can rock your world; it can also break your heart. What happens when the thrill of infatuation or the honeymoon ended and you slip into life as a checklist—work, parent, sleep, repeat?
Maybe you’re feeling more like roommates than partners. Perhaps the same arguments loop endlessly, leaving both of you exhausted and misunderstood. You might lie awake at night wondering if this is as good as it gets, or if there’s a way back to the connection you once shared.
You’re caught between longing for closeness and the protective walls you’ve each built. Small misunderstandings escalate into battles. Silence becomes safer than speaking up. You’re both trying, but somehow still missing each other.
How I Help:
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Explore bolder ways of being a couple
My work with couples offers you a safe place to explore dynamics around communication, trust dynamics, division of labor, and intimacy of all kinds. Even in the face of parenthood, how might you love with passion and desire.
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Attachment-focused IFS
We’ll explore how each of you learned to love and protect yourselves. Those defensive parts that show to create distance once kept you safe—now we’ll help them relax so your authentic selves can show up for each other.
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Cultivating Compassion
We’ll build your capacity for self-compassion, then strengthen skills you need to hear one another. This is about mining the gold already present while gently addressing the patterns that keep you disconnected.
After our work together, couples find:
Conversations feel like connection rather than combat; relationships that feel like a refuge rather than a battlefield
A greater ability to pause, identify activated parts of self and move into repair when conflicts do arise
A renewed sense of feeling seen and understood by their partner while also showing up with genuine presence
Greater ease in expressing needs without fear of judgment or rejection, even in the presence of past relationship trauma
Physical and emotional intimacy that flows more naturally as well as making space for choice and enthusiastic consent